When it comes to touching yourself down there, two things are certain: Almost everyone is doing it, and no one dares to talk about it.
Admit it. You had your fair share of closed-door policies, especially when you are feeling hot and horny and your man is nowhere to be found. Your trusty dildo is always on your bedside table, just in case the situation calls for it. Still, no matter how much pleasure it brings you, you can’t help but feel guilty after hearing those strange myths about masturbation.
The good news is, you are living in the 21st
century. Gone are the days when “touching yourself will make you blind” is a serious matter. For purposes of information, here are 10 myths about female masturbation you need to kick right out of your system.
Myth No. 1: Masturbation Is For The Desperate
You probably heard those elders say that touching yourself down there means you are a single girl who’s not getting some action in bed. Of course not.
Masturbation is not for the desperate, single ladies who want to get laid. In fact, touching yourself has nothing to do with the existence of a partner.
The truth is, masturbation allows you to explore what you like and don’t like, and it helps you get to know yourself better, at least in the sexual aspects. You could try various things and even speed it up to find out what works for you.
And no, masturbation is not just for women who are not getting any. Studies show that people who are in a relationship masturbate more than single people do. This doesn’t make you desperate.
Myth No. 2: Masturbation Could Cause Infertility
If you are trying to get pregnant
, those who live in the 1920’s will tell you that touching yourself won’t increase your chances.
There is no absolute truth in that. The truth is, masturbation does not affect your fertility and ability to get pregnant.
However, you need to be careful with two things. In case you are planning to use sex toys
, make sure to keep them clean at all times. This way, you are sure that you are free from infections or sexually transmitted diseases.
At the same time, if you are thinking of having a baby, you might want to caution your man to take it easy on the hand jobs. Masturbation could lead to low sperm counts, thereby affecting your chances of getting pregnant.
Myth No. 3: Masturbation Makes You Addicted To Vibrators
Let’s face it. Your hands know how to work that area down there. Even with your eyes closed, your fingers have their own way of making things pleasurable down south.
However, your hands need to take a break from time to time. In this case, a vibrator or dildo on hand would do the trick.
However, you may have read somewhere that vibrators make you addicted to masturbation. That’s false. The truth is, vibrators are great. In fact, they are one of the best inventions on this planet. You could use one alone or with someone else to make sex more fun
. Regardless, it won’t turn into an addiction.
You just have to take it easy on vibrator use, since being friends with a vibrator could make you less responsive to subtle stimulation. Nevertheless, you are fine and you don’t need to go to the sex toy rehab center.
Myth No. 4: Masturbation Could Cause STDs
Sexually transmitted diseases, such as gonorrhea
are among the many problems society is facing.
Worse yet, STDs are on the rise, especially among teens. In fact, one in four teens has an unwanted disease, which could affect their fertility if left untreated.
The good news is, touching yourself down there is not the culprit.
You could get an STD through skin-to-skin contact or a transfer of body fluids, such as blood from an infected partner. If you are doing it alone and you are 100 percent sure that you don’t have one, then you are safe. You don’t have to worry about getting infected, too.
Myth No. 5: People In Relationships Don’t Masturbate
In relation to myth number one, masturbation is not for the single, desperate ladies who want to get an orgasm
. Just because you have a boyfriend or a husband, this doesn’t mean you should stop touching yourself, too.
What if your man is out of the country for a business trip or assigned overseas for work? Or perhaps you are feeling horny and the husband is an hour away from home.
This Is Where Masturbation Comes In.
Studies show that masturbation is not just for single people. Even those in happy, healthy relationships are more likely to masturbate. It’s not an issue of performance, too. Many couples consider masturbation as a means to improve and enjoy their sex lives
physically and emotionally.
In case you want to do it alone even with a husband waiting downstairs, go ahead and do it. Think of Jim and Michelle in the first part of American Pie Reunion
, sans getting-caught-by-the-child part.
Myth No. 6: Masturbation Kills Your Libido
Since when is this even correct? Was there a time in your life where you were not in the mood for some action because you touched yourself?
As long as you did not spend the next three hours or so of your life masturbating and trying out different things with your fingers, this won’t kill your libido
The truth is that masturbation makes sex more enjoyable. Since you are able to spend time with yourself, especially in your area down south, you can tell your man what works to make the experience more pleasurable. There is no way it could negatively affect your sex drive
and ability to orgasm
That’s not all. Even men who masturbate can learn help themselves last longer in bed, which could be beneficial during those steamy sessions. At least you don’t have to worry about having a one-minute man, right?
Myth No. 7: Childhood Masturbation Is Abnormal
Can you still remember the first time you touched yourself down there? How was the experience? Pleasurable, don’t you think?
Surely, you are afraid to tell your mom, older sister and even your friends about your first encounter with yourself.
You might be scared that people will call you sexually addicted or abnormal, and judge you for exploring your body.
As a matter of fact, touching yourself at 13 was not abnormal or sinful. It was a normal, natural activity, which every child will go through at one point. Your genitals come with feel-good nerves, which could make your little mind curious of how they work.
Regardless of how old you started touching yourself, this will have no bearing on your sexual behavior as you get older.
Myth No. 8: There Is A Thing Called “Too Much Masturbation.”
How often do you masturbate? Once a week? Twice a month? Every day? No matter how many times you touch yourself down south, there is no such thing as too much masturbation. In fact, it is an unlikely scenario, according to many sex experts.
However, there is one thing you need to watch out for. While masturbation itself is not bad, you need to be concerned if your alone time is getting in the way of other things, and when it has affected your daily activities.
If you take too much time masturbating and you tend to forget your responsibilities, your job, your social life and even forgetting to put the clothes in the laundry, then you need to see a doctor right away to address the issue.
The good news is, this condition is rare. If you are not having issues with masturbation getting in the way, then you’re good to go, and free to do with whenever you want.
Myth No. 9: Masturbation Has An Age Limit
When you get older, you will notice changes in your area down there. Aside from thinning of the pubic hair, your vagina
may not cooperate with you in case the situation calls for it.
Does this mean you have to stop paying attention to the area down south?
Of Course Not.
Since there is no right time to start masturbating, it only follows that there is no right time to stop, too. There is no such thing as age limit in masturbation. In fact, it is a perfectly healthy activity, which could go with any age.
Myth No. 10: Women Don’t Have To Masturbate
Since when are you allowed not to touch yourself? When it comes to masturbation, everybody is equal, regardless of age, social status and gender.
Both men and women can masturbate for the same reasons. It feels good, it provides pleasure, it is relaxing and it is part of every human being’s nature.
Statistically speaking, men masturbate more than women do. In fact, it is acceptable to hear about men doing the hand job, then they will talk about women and their masturbation activities with their friends. Still, this does not mean can’t touch yourself when the situation calls for it. It is healthy and normal, too.
The truth is there are a million and one ways why masturbation is healthy. In case you feel the need to do it, go ahead and touch yourself. You don’t have to be embarrassed about it.